Daily Bread 9/21: Owning Your Choices

“Your life is the sum result of all the choices you make, both consciously and unconsciously. If you can control the process of choosing, you can take control of all aspects of your life. You can find the freedom that comes from being in charge of yourself.”

– Robert F. Bennett

You are the result of your choices. Sure, everyone is born with advantages and disadvantages, physically, financially, mentally, and otherwise, but at the end of the day, when its all said and done, there is no reason to live your entire life poor.

The above quote is in one of my favorite books, The Millionaire Fastlane by MJ Demarco. I know it’s kind of a cheesy title, but it makes sense if you read the book and I highly recommend it.fastlane

In it Demarco focuses on the importance of choices. If you are in school, you can choose to spend your free time playing video games, partying, or just generally goofing off, or you can study, prepare, and stay ahead of the curve in your classes. You can use the free time to build a business or at least get a part-time job. The first may sound fun and be the most rewarding at the time, but when you fail out of school, there is no one to blame other than yourself.
Maybe you have a professor that gives you a hard time and grades unfairly and that costs you a letter grade. Is that your fault? Not necessarily, but as I said yesterday, it is important to live robustly. Your other assignments or your other classes should carry the weight of that shortcoming.

If you decide to sleep until 10 everyday, you may not be tired, but you also won’t be accomplishing much and will have a hard time building anything of true value. When you find yourself left behind by your friends and unable to pay the bills, look in the mirror.

Every second you spend on one thing you are spending not doing another. If that other thing has a better payoff, whether that be a better relationship with your family or more financial freedom that choice is yours to make.

In the book, Demarco points out the importance of not making self-destructive choices. For instance, not taking unnecessary risks that can take your health, your financial freedom, or even your life.

And its not just one choice. For anti-terrorism forces, they often say they must be right 100% of the time while the terrorist only has to be right once to strike. The same goes for your choices. You could stay in and study, build good relationships with family and good friends, and choose to work hard building something bigger than a 9-5 for years. Thousands and thousands of good choices. But, if you make one bad one, maybe trying to drive home after having one or two too many drinks, it could all go down the drain.

Look at Donte Stallworth. He obviously made many great choices and chose to work hard to make it to the NFL and build a successful career, but then he made one bad decision and cost a woman her life and nearly him his career. It certainly cost him millions in potential earnings.

While it’s tragic, he has no one else to blame for the consequences. He was lucky to get off as easily as he did, but it still is a cautionary tale of what just one bad choice can lead to.

Your life consists of millions of choices and each and every day you must remain disciplined and make the right ones in order to reach the success you desire.

I encourage you to think of a few bad habits that you choose to continue that effect how you spend your time and lower your ability to reach your goals. When it comes up again just slow down, think about it and, make the right choice. One by one your choices will lead you to your destination, just make sure that destination is what you want it to be.

Until tomorrow…

 


 

Get caught up on the rest of the week below:

Daily Bread 9/19

Daily Bread 9/20

 

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